In my message yesterday I introduced a "Four G" model for relational conflict resolution (adapted from The Peacemaker). Just thought I'd review the process on the blog this week.
G #1: Glorify God
We tend to choose one of three responses when tension develops in a relationship.
- We Escape
- We Attack
- We Make Peace
Some ways we escape: Denial, flight, separation, suicide
Some ways we attack: Assault, slander, gossip, silent treatment, litigation
The problem with both responses is that our focus is off.
With an escape response I'm focused on myself. I can't take this anymore. I don't want to think about this anymore. I want out. It's all about my feelings.
With an attack response I'm focused on the other person. I want them to pay. I want them to feel pain like I've felt pain. It's all about their feelings.
The challenge is to shift our focus to God. Every conflict is an opportunity to glorify God by walking the way of Jesus and demonstrating the reconciling power of the cross.
Of course, this mainly applies if you're a follower of Christ. If you are, consume your thoughts with His glory, and see every conflict as an opportunity to increase His fame!
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