On Sunday, while preaching about the importance of mutual submission in relationships, a metaphor popped into my mind. So I went with it...
My wedding was a crucifixion!
As soon as I said it I realized the analogy has its limitations:) So I quickly added, "Except it was happier, and less bloody!"
Fortunately, our church shared a good laugh and my understanding wife has a terrific sense of humor.
Here was my point. Some men want their wives to submit, but they don't want to die.
Marriage will beat the selfishness out of you. The day you get married is the day you die to yourself and choose to live for someone else. It's a beautiful exchange that ultimately leads to surprising satisfaction.
Submission is actually freeing. To submit to God, a spouse, the scriptures, or a small group is to be freed from the awful burden of always needing things to go your way. Seriously, I'm convinced self-absorbed people are the most miserable people on the planet! If your happiness is tied to getting your own way, you're bound for a life of constant disappointment. Some people are still angry today because thirteen years ago one thing didn't go their way.
Imagine being freed from that burden by finding joy in yielding to others.